The art ….to be a human Being

 

[The art to be honest] [The art to forgive] [The art to change another] [The art to live] [The art to love other]

 

I

In the beginning we were ourselves

Then we was formed to be like other

The rest of our life wee will try to find our selves again.

 

II

Discovering is more giving than bring up.

 

Development is to find out what is there already.

 

If you don't want to be yourself

the only you can do is to get use to it.

 

Who you are is reflecting in hat you say and in what you do.

 

In missing agreement between words and act the act will count.

 

As you act in little cases make me think you will act in big cases.

Usually I prove right.

 

III

Any limitation is a challenge.

 

A life without challenges is like a high jump without a crossbar.

The crossbar can lay so high that it isn't worth trying.

 

Nobody have a lack for goal.

 

If you don't have a goal - the goal could be to find your goal.

 

If you don't know what you want it don't mean that don't want anything.

It only means that you don't know what you want.

 

A way to avoid the important in life

is to devote other lack for details.

 

You can hurt for making a reasonable reason for an unintelligible guilt.

You can let you hurt for making a reasonable reason to an unreasonable hate.

 

The life can be that way that you always have what you want for really:

If you know what you want

you will get what you want.

 

If you don't know what you want you also have what you want

whatever you like it or not.

 

 

IV

The rage is a wing to defend of lie.

 

The anger is a primitive force in the service of truth.

 

The attraction is a power which decide what we have to do

no matter what we want.

 

The fear is a tool for our extreme challenge.

 

You can be attracted.

You can be afraid.

 

What is tempting - and what is scaring could be the same.

 

To follow your impulse could cost more than controlling the impulse.

 

To deny your impulse could cost more than following your impulse.

 

Killing a passion is like killing a part of yourself.

 

Sometimes we want to learn being fond of what we don't like

 

Sometimes we want to stop being fond of what we like.

 

What wish is it then

which should change one wish with another?

 

 You have responsibility to know what you feel and how you think.

 

You have responsibility for all you say and for all your acting.

 

What you say and what you do can influence what you feel.

 

What you take for grounded is the only you never will question.

 

Do you know from whom you got what you are taking for grounded?

 

The stubbornness says:

- We always do it this way and if we change we have to admit

that we have done it in a wrong all the time!

 

 

V

Art is freedom in a set form.

 

Art is a mirror, which give the watcher possibility to meet

unknown parts of him self.

Behind a mirror there is nothing to catch.

 

VI

Chocking, we call that act which arouse that indignation

which is already in the one who is chocked.

 

A way not to arouse indignation is to do nothing

but that too can arouse indignation.

 

How can you satisfied others demand and expectation

when you cannot satisfied your own?

 

The one who learned to live with his own imperfection

can easier live with others.

 

VII

That money means nothing only count for the one who has money.

 

A lot of money seems better than a good rumour.

 

You can be generous in details and stingy in big cases.

 

You can be generous in big cases and stingy in details.

 

It is easier wasting others resources than own.

 

You can do well in fear for hurting.

You can do well by a bad conscience

You can do well for making a good impress.

 

To give of what you have to the one who rather wanted some other

is like feeding rabbits with fish.

 

You don't want what you want most from anybody.

 

Well-will without respect

is like music on an un-tuned piano.

 

You can show a thankfulness you don't feel

and hide thankfulness you really feel.

 

Unthankfulness can stem from a fear for discovering

that there is more to be thankfulness about.

 

VIII

You can prefer your own company for others.

You can prefer others company for your own

 

Modesty suits as long as you don't exaggerate.

 The one who desperately need a friend will not find any.

Who can stand the one who cannot stand him self?

 

You can meet me and pretend I am another you rather had met.

But maybe I will do the same and then one can puzzle about

who really meet who.

 

IX

No one can understand others reality

without understanding his own.

 

If you are afraid of my words you interrupt me to object

to what you think I would have said if you had let me finish.

 

You can defend yourself by talking about something else.

You can defend yourself by asking and not give possibility to answer.

 

You like to lesson to the one who say what you like to hear.

You like to lesson to the one who say what you would have said.

 

If you think that you already know you won't be told any more.

 

A strong voice can increase weak arguments.

Strong arguments speak for themselves.

 

To declare what I feel isn't right.

To declare what you feel is always right.

 

Subjective seeing all is objective.

Objective seeing all is subjective.

 

Everything you say is about you.

Everything I say is about me.

 

What I believe you think say a little about you and a lot about me.

 

X

The majority of people belong at less one minority.

 

For the gravitation we all are the same.

 

The "general opinion" isn't always the cleverest;

perhaps not even the most general.

 

The dictate of the majority is also dictatorship.

 

You will find cooperation, which can parables as two captains

with different destinations.

 

For to pull in the same direction we need the same vision.

 

What if we were acting as everything we do

- one way or another returned to us?

 

What if we would aim to create life the way

that also our poorest brother got a reason to bless the day he was born?

 

XI

The one who get a lot of praise for his ability to carry his burden

are willingly suffer a little more.

 

It seems easier to a lot of people to carry others suffer than their own.

 

The only pain you can avoid is the one, which follow

the trying to avoid an inevitable pain.

 

For the one who is prepared to meet his pain

there maybe isn't any pain left to meet.

 

XII

The one who don't change doesn't exist.

 

The opposition to change is fighting with the opposition against stagnation.

 

That causes that most changes will happen in fixed frames.

The troubles to take a new point of view are

because of unwillingness to leave the old.

 

Exactly as the present despise what is "out"

the future will despise what is "in".

 

One can have as much trouble to stop as another can have trouble to start.

 

Nobody take step two before step one.

 

XIII

You can be sad because of what you had and lost.

You can be sad because what you needed but never got

You cannot be sad because you don't know what you lost.

 

You can be so busy missing what you don't have

that you won't see what you have.

 

One comforts because everything could be worse.

Another comforts because everything can be better.

 

XIV

All past is the beginning to all future.

 

Of course it is good to make plans

but not about that future which already is past.

 

Changing the past is more difficult than tie a knot on a diamante.

 

Irreconcilable is the one who loves to hate.

The last we can reconcile with is our stubborner irreconcilableness

 

Perhaps someone may sacrifice his life to make us understand

that no one give up his own irreconcilableness

just because an other has sacrificed his life.

 

But against the deepest shame and the hardest fear

no one can help as long as we are ashamed

because of that shame we are carrying and are afraid to meet the fear.

 

One wishes a comfortable future.

Another is longing for a comfortable past

 

To foresee is that wise after the events

 which hasn't turn into wexed.

 

Our eternal youth can be because we miss personal experiences

about the age we catches.

 

XV

The human being always needed the nature.

The nature never needed the human being.

 

Extermination is a kind of thief ness from our descendants

- in that extent there be any.

 

If growing are good or bad is depending in what's growing

and whom who take the winding.

 

It is easier break down than built up.

 

It should be more blessed to beware than break down.

 

The intelligence of the human being makes him able

to break down conditions for his own existence.

 

The missing intelligence of the human being

can perhaps make him do it.

 

XVI

You can avoid life for to get rid of living

with the fear to loose something important when you die

 

Rather loose life than the wish to live.

 

A kind of life-will is the will to find the life-will

 

One believes to be a body with a soul as accessories.

Another believes to be a soul with a body as accessories.

 

It is impossible to know what happens after death.

 

We can try to live such a way that we don't need to know

what is happened after death.

 

An accidental closeness to death

can wake you up from a sleeping love to life.

 

One idiot has more answers than ten wise men can ask.

 

Actual we don't know anything and not even that are we sure about.

 

We fill up the uncertainty with our worst worries.

We fill up the uncertainty with our pious hope.

 

Our trouble to find God and faith could be because

we are nearer than we think.

 

Why live?

 

Why not?

 

Why ask?

 

It isn't all, which need an explanation.

 

Life is it's own reward.

 

 

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